John-Henry Pfifferling, PhD.
David Bernstein’s book, “You’re Old,” is a warm memoir of how close relationships can be built between a physician and his patients. The opportunity for mutual learning is particularly powerful. Sadly, so many factors intrude on an honest and caring bond. Where the relationship is strong, trusting and built over time a deep collaboration can develop. David’s comments on dealing with one of the most difficult of all questions, when to stop driving, is especially important. Enjoy the warmth of an old-time memoir and live longer in a balanced way.
Mary Dee Snow, Ph.D, MA, LMT, Age 58, Clearwater, Fla.
In my estimation, Dr. Bernstein successfully achieved his goal to express useful ideas that may help us Age GRACEfully™. His five themes, conditions, patient types, and philosophies established Bernstein’s creative style but more than that demonstrated the depth of thought from Bernstein. This indeed led me to look at what other gems might be hidden within his manuscript. My discovery left me without disappointment. Bernstein has shared with us his growth at becoming a physician with the capacity to be both empathetic and constructively objective while working with his patients. What speaks volumes is Dr. Bernstein’s ability to actively listen and communicate with his patients. This skill is not easy to master and the gift of shared expression is one that all professions will find beneficial.
M. Gianacakes, Age 80, Author, New Jersey
Dear Dr. Bernstein,
As one of your favorite octogenarian patients, I was not able to tell you, during a consultation, how much I enjoyed your recently published book, “You’re Old. “
Each of the experiences you describe with a patient is solved with the skill, patience, and understanding that my family and I have come to know at your hands for over ten years. My respect and esteem for your advice is even more remarkable because you are so close to the youthful age of my children.
Although it is probably necessary for our medical advisor to distance his personal life from patients’ curiosity, it was still very interesting to read about your sons, your siblings and your parents. … Your book is also a helpful resource, with the lists at the end of each chapter.
My best wishes for much success with “You’re Old!” and all your subsequent writings!
Michael Rehr, Esq., Age 58, Rehr Law, Miami, Fla.
I just finished reading your book last night and will pass it on to my parents.
… at the end I had a positive feeling about getting old and dying gracefully. There are certainly passages that inspired me to exercise more and live well, and I plan to do so. There are also other parts that encouraged me to pursue my lifetime desires soon, before they become unattainable for health or other reasons. The most touching part was your chapter about your father and his passing when you and your family were all there at his bedside, with your mother singing and reminiscing about meeting your father at the ice rink. Amazing she even recalled she was wearing a yellow sweater! It was also very clear that you enjoy the work you do, the interactions you have with most of your patients, and that you are dedicated to treating them with compassion, dignity and with a goal to help them “live” a productive and dignified life, even in their dying days.
Alan Goldfarb, M.D., Age 87, Retired Physician, Buffalo, New York
Probably, because I always dreamed that medicine should be practiced as you described it in your book “I’ve got some good news and some bad news YOU’RE OLD,” I found it to be very exciting and stimulating. Chapter 8, Beginning with the End in Mind was especially thought provoking as I had avoided family conferences involving terminal care as I felt defeated in my fight to win the contest between life and death. I see that I short-changed my patients and wish that I could do it over.
However, I am happy to see that a strong advocate of increased compassion such as yours is active and will improve the quality of our medical practicing.
Clare Bennett, Age 49, Owner, South Tampa Elder Support; Works in Ministry; Tampa, Fla.
… I found your book spoke to me personally because I so admire and care for our elderly and their circumstances in growing old. You respectfully share true life as it is presented to you … As you pointed out, you have to employ humility in guiding those before you.
V. Smith, Age 87, Clearwater, Fla.
… I again thank you. Your book will be an inspiration to me to Age GRACEfully™. I shall keep on “dancing as fast as I can” and remember that it is not just getting old, it is “Aging GRACEfully.”
Reg Laskey, Age 88, Detroit, Mich.
Your book is a Gold Mine for an older person intent on making progress in their daily life. Any reader who appreciates the relevance of growing older in these troubled times will find “You’re Old” difficult to put down. A work of art by a master in the medical profession … I will share this with my many medical friends in Michigan.
Robert Bandes, Age 65, Oldsmar, Fla.
David’s long tenure in the field of geriatric medicine has provided him with a wealth of knowledge in managing care for our senior citizens. His gentle approach to the issue of senior driving privileges provided me with a measure of comfort when it came time to manage my own mother’s driving issues. He is truly a resource in the field of geriatrics and for our entire community.
Jane Aronoff, Age 59, Marietta, Ga.
“You’re Old: Tales of a Geriatrician, What to Expect in Your 60s, 70s, 80s and Beyond” is a thoughtful, entertaining book packed with sound advice that covers aging both from medical and social standpoints. As one who is entering my 60s, Dr. Bernstein’s GRACE is an easy to remember acronym for how I want to age. In life, I find the best lessons are watching others and Dr. Bernstein’s stories of his patients provided a wonderful education and much for me to think about in the years ahead. This book also helped me think about my parents and the conversations I will be having in the years ahead. I highly recommend this book for all who want to be knowledgeable and thoughtful about aging.
Rabbi Gary Klein, Age 62, Temple Ahavat Shalom, Palm Harbor, Fla.
How good it is to know that life, when we are older, can be more than just going to the doctors to stay alive, and how wonderful it is to know that there are doctors whose wisdom and devotion can do more than keep us alive, more than keep us functioning. There are doctors who help us find new meaning and new joy in life, no matter our age.